Ok so Ive been thinking about someone I know and the pain he’s in. The pain of healing a broken heart. The pain of loving someone so desperately that doesn’t love you back. It’s tough.
This is what you have to realise.
That person is the most idillic version of you as you can perceive at this current time.
That person represents everything about yourself, your best self.
Think, what is is that you like about that person? What qualities do they have?
That person you love is showing you the parts of you that you have forgotten, have buried, that person is showing you parts of yourself that you have never developed but you know are there, silently sitting in the background.
Maybe they are funny, maybe they are kind or wise, maybe they are confident and attractive, maybe all of those things. Whatever they are they are attributes of yourself that you want to encourage back, heal or grow. And you can think back through all of your past loves and see if that’s the case or not.
And when you realise that and embrace that fully, the pain of separation lessens. Because that means that now you have been shown how to grow and develop yourself and allow your own self to flourish, you cannot be in pain from not receiving those things from another. Maybe you’ll be together one day, maybe not, but there will no longer be a painful or longing void between you because that person is an extension of you, showing you you. We are all aspects of one self.
I hope that helps, let me know what you think and please feel free to share this with a friend if you think it will help them.
With love & gratitude,
Natalie Louise Fox